What do you do when you see your ex at a party? It’s especially confusing when you are in the no-contact period. You are not supposed to talk to them and you suddenly run into them. This weird situation might ruin your chances of getting back together if you don’t play your cards right.
#1 Don’t Make Any Deadly Mistakes
A party can be a minefield for deadly mistakes. Be very careful.
If you find yourself in this situation, then you have to make sure that you don’t do any of the mistakes listed in the first step of the UnBreakup Guide. That includes freaking out if your ex is with someone else.
I know you might get that gut wrenching feeling if you see someone with your ex, but there is absolutely nothing you can do about it. And to be fair, they did breakup with you, so technically they are not doing anything wrong. Besides, that is probably just a rebound relationship that will end soon.
#2 Have a Group to Hang Out With
The most important thing to do is to have a group of people that you can hang out with comfortably. Find some friends at the party and have a good time with them. You don’t want to feel left out and end up hanging with your ex and their friends.
#3 The Conversation
In this situation, it is completely OK to talk to your ex. Because if you don’t, it might just seem rude. However, the conversation has to be general. You cannot talk about anything personal. Don’t be rude and don’t be needy. Ideally, you want your ex to come to talk to you.
When the conversation has run its course, just get back to your group of friends and enjoying yourself. Don’t let it get to a stage where you guys have nothing to talk about other than your relationship. You have to treat them like an acquaintance, not an ex.
#4 Enjoy Yourself
The best thing you can do at this time is have a good time at the party. You can be assured that your ex is watching you. If they see you enjoying yourself, they are going to find themselves thinking about you and missing you. If they see you being miserable and sad, even at a party, they are just going to think that breaking up was the right thing to do.
#5 Ease Up On the Booze
Enjoy the party. But don’t get drunk and make a fool of yourself.
Another important thing to keep in mind is not to get drunk. You are likely to make an ass of yourself if you get drunk. If your ex is at the party, you might end up telling them how you love them after getting drunk, thus damaging your chances of getting back together. You need to be a person who enjoys their life, not the person who is still hung up on their ex.
#6 Don’t Play the Game
Your ex will probably try to make you jealous or show you how much better off they are without you. It’s possible that they might be overly flirtatious to others or be overly affectionate to their rebound. The only thing you can do in this situation is to NOT LET IT GET TO YOU. Do not get into this game of “who is better off” while at the party. If your ex is trying to play it, let them play it. They are just going to look like a fool playing it all by themselves.
