Your ex’s behavior after a breakup can be confusing, irritating, frustrating and sometimes downright hurtful. And the reason behind this is the fact that you are always trying to deduce their motives behind their behavior.
They liked your status on Facebook – What does it mean?
They ran into you in your favorite coffee shop – What does it mean?
They call you in the middle of the night ending the phone call with “Let’s just be friends” – What is that all about?
Even the smallest action by your ex can drive you crazy if you over analyze it. It gets even worse when you still love your ex and want to get back together. The question that is always on your mind is whether or not this was a sign that your ex still likes you.
But you should however be careful in getting your hopes up if your ex likes you. Just because they still like you (or still love you) doesn’t necessarily mean they want to get back together. In fact, if you were in a meaningful relationship, then chances are they still like you. But that does not mean they want to get back together. This article will give you a distinct difference between the signs when they just like you and signs when they are thinking of getting back together.
Signs your ex likes you
If your ex has any type of emotions (including hate and anger) towards you, then you can be sure they still have feelings for you. See, the opposite of love isn’t hate. It’s indifference. When they don’t have any emotions towards you, that’s when you have to start worrying. As long as they hate you, you are still on their mind and they still care about you. But when they become indifferent towards you, then that just means you no longer matter to them.
If your ex is trying to contact you after a breakup. You can rest assured they still like you. However, it doesn’t mean they want to get back together. It just might be that they miss you after a breakup and wanted to talk to you. This is a great sign that they like you but don’t over analyze it.
3. Being Competitive
If your ex is trying to make you jealous or trying to show you that their life is much better without you, this is a sign they still think about you and they still have feelings for you. It doesn’t mean they want to get back together. It just means they get a little ego boost by showing you how good they are doing. If they are trying to show you they are doing great, then they are probably miserable in reality. And that’s definitely a good sign.
4. Push/Pull Behavior
One moment your ex wants to spend time with you and the other they want to avoid you. This behavior is very common after a breakup. However, this behavior can be extremely frustrating if you still love your ex and want to get them back. They are nice to you one second and super mean the next. The reason behind this behavior is that they are confused about what they want in life. Their heart misses you, while their brain is telling them to stay away from you.
The push/pull behavior means that there is a conflict going on inside them and there is nothing you can do about it. However, this behavior doesn’t necessarily mean they want to get back together. It just means they are having trouble figuring out what they want.
5. Accidental Running In
If your ex runs into you at places where you frequently visit, that means they still like you and they were missing you. It might just mean that they wanted to see how you were doing.
6. Lingering touch
When your ex hugs (or touches you) you and lingers for longer than normal that means they still have feelings for you. If your touch gives them a feeling they want to hold on to, you can almost guarantee they still have feelings for you.
7. Knowing your private life
If your ex already knows what’s happening in your life, then they are asking around about you and that means they are still interested in your life. Even though they might not want to get back together, it sure means they care for you.
8. Drunk Dialing
This one is pretty obvious. If your ex remembers you after they are drunk and they want to talk to you. That’s a sign they like you.
All the above signs just indicate that they still like you. It doesn’t necessarily mean they are thinking of getting back together. However, even if your ex exhibits any of the above signs, you still have a pretty decent chance of getting back together if you follow the UnBreakup guide.
Signs Your Ex Wants To Get Back Together
1. The future talk
When your ex talks about the future, do they include you in it? If so, then that means they plan on having you in their life. This can be a sign that they want to get back together.
2. Not Dating/ Hiding Dating
If your ex is not dating or is actively trying to hide their dating life from you (by lying or some other means) then that means they are thinking about getting back together. If they decided to move on, they wouldn’t have cared whether or not you knew about their dating life.
3. The relationship talk
If your ex wants to talk about what went wrong in your relationship and how it could’ve been fixed, then that’s a sure fire sign they want to get back together. Remember, it’s only a sign if they bring it up and they talk about how things could be fixed. If you bring it up and/or you guys are blaming each other for the relationship’s problem then that’s NOT a sign they want to get back together.
4. Becoming a better ex
If your ex makes an effort to improve as a person and as a potential partner, and then they try to let you know about it directly or indirectly, then they are thinking about getting back together. It could be something like giving up smoking, getting a new job, going to the gym etc.
5. Bringing up memories
If your ex tries to remind you of all the good times you’ve had together, like anniversaries, your memorable dates, your memorable moments etc. Then that means they want you to feel the same thing they are feeling, which is a good sign they want to get back together.
If you get an obvious sign that they want to get back together, then you have to make a move. But be careful and don’t be too upfront about it. Don’t bring up the topic of getting back together unless you are absolutely sure they want to.